Advice for online dating for Women:  BE CAREFUL

Unfortunately, there are a lot of predators online. So you must be careful when communicating with strangers before you get to know them well.

Duh! Yeah, I know, but reminders are good.


Depending on the site, they have become the virtual meeting places for singles from different parts of the world encompassing all cultures, ages, personalities, and professions and other characteristics.  What an opportunity to branch out and spread your wings!


If that’s not your style, other services offer solely local matches.  And matches within a certain geographical area.  You set the parameters.


Online dating is convenient, logical, and inexpensive. Singles can chat, meet and interact and possibly find real relationships with a small-time investment and minimum risks.


And testimonials reveal that for many couples, this has led to marriage after realizing that they are compatible and complement each other.


There are hundreds of dating sites to choose from.  You need to have enough time to research because one service offered by an online dating site doesn’t necessarily mean that it’ll become your best choice.


How credible is the dating service you favor? How important is that to you? What background research have you processed to find its positive results. What do reviews state? Are you comfortable with those reviews? Can you get personal recommendations from other singles?


Also, make sure the dating site you choose meets your requirements.  Are you just looking a friend?  A pen pal?  A potential relationship? Casual sex? Deep involvement? Some sites are very raunchy.  Is this what you want? Make sure.


Within these services, the best way of introducing yourself is through profiling. Through a series of questions and matching your criteria with others, they attempt to process candidates they feel will be your best match in the future. Information such as age, location, and others are necessary information.


Take note here:  There could be serious men online wanting to honestly meet their soulmate. Be cautious, but honest. Don’t make up false profiles to lead someone on. That’s not gracious nor kind. Be yourself and be honest in your interactions.


Many professional online dating sites provide various ranges of featured chat rooms and services. You can try using advanced features such as video or voice greeting. It increases your chance of meeting the person you like compared to a five-line letter advertisement in the newspapers personals page and attending a social gathering.


Some have cautioned that it’s better if you engage in interesting communication through email (a new one just for this purpose) before you agree to a first conversation on the phone or having your first date.  Food for thought.


Online dating sites can act as your helpful tool in finding your best match. However, again, people should be cautious—It’s advisable to remember important online dating tips to avoid problems and scams in the end.




  • Start slowly. You need to guard yourself against persons who seems too good to be true. It’s best to communicate through email or text messaging first.
  • Always guard your anonymity. Make sure you don’t include information such as your last name, home address, real email address, workplace or other identifying information in your profile.
  • Be sure that your email signature file is turned off or does not contain any information which can identify you. Stop communicating with persons who keeps on insisting that you give such information.
  • Before giving any personal information to somebody, be sure you are comfortable with the person and known him/her in character. It is important to ask many questions and weigh if the person is telling the truth or not through his/her replies.  Be selective and follow your instinct wisely. Decisions which are done carefully often give favorable results.
  • Ask for a photograph to get an idea of the person’s physical appearance. Talk to him/her on the phone to know his/her communication skills but never give your number to a stranger. It is better to talk using a block to your caller ID.

It is better to protect your privacy to avoid ending falling into the hands of someone unscrupulous.




I found this neat article from Women’s Health Magazine, by Jessica Gross.

Online dating is now the second-most common way couples meet, with 30 to 40 percent of singles trying out some 1,500 services, from sites to apps. So if you’re single and don’t want to be, shunning digital dating is kinda, well, dumb. But to avoid spending all your time clicking aimlessly or going on dates you feel like running (screaming) from, you need a game plan.

These five enterprising, and ultimately triumphant, mate seekers were willing to share theirs. Check out their proven online dating tips for sparking love—one of which might just lead you to your own real-world relationship.
38, Baltimore, married, used  The Strategy: Peek at other women’s profiles, and don’t settle for less than your perfect guy.The Process: After a string of awful online dates, Amy took a clever route to improving her own profile, creating several fake male profiles so she could see how the women who came up most often in search results presented themselves. What she found (and copied): Popular women showed some skin in their photos (shoulders or a bit of cleavage) and kept their “About Me” sections short.Her old profile included detailed descriptions of her work life and what she wanted in a man; her new one was just 100 words, “each carefully selected to optimize my chances of attracting the largest number of men.” After the switch, “I was one of the most popular people on the site,” says Amy, who wrote a book about her experience called Data: A Love Story.But she didn’t date indiscriminately from there. She agreed to go out only with men who fulfilled most of her 72-trait checklist of what she wanted in a partner. Her dual strategy is how she met Brian, her husband of five years.The Guy: Before she reengineered her profile, Amy had dates who stuck her with the check and didn’t tell her they were married, but Brian is exactly who she was looking for: a bald, Jewish travel fiend. (And yes, she specifically wanted a baldie!)Joan Brown
33, New York City, engaged, used

The Strategy: Demand to be wined and dined—or at least not simply wined.

The Process: Perhaps the most common way to size up a digital potential is by meeting for a quick drink, but Joan wanted more. She found drink dates uncreative—get-togethers that didn’t tell her anything about a potential match’s interests. So when a guy proposed seeing a Richard Avedon exhibit at the local museum, Joan jumped at the chance to meet someone who shared her passion for art and fashion. A year and a half later, he got down on one knee and proposed something else.

The Guy: Joan’s graduate-student fiancé, Victor, is “the most thoughtful, caring, and kind person,” she says. Like Joan, he loves art and avidly keeps up with current events. Besides, he makes her laugh every day. They plan on marrying next March.

29, New Jersey, married, used

The Strategy: Say yes to everyone (seriously, everyone).

The Process: When Linda started dating online, she was skeptical and said no to everyone who asked her out—which obviously wasn’t going to help her find love. Phase two had her randomly selecting people based solely on their looks. “I was being picky and wasn’t opening my heart up to anyone,” she says. Finally, Linda decided to say OK to every guy who asked to meet—even if she had reservations about him. In that first week, Linda gave the green light to two men.

She didn’t feel a connection with the first, but the second was Tommy, a guy she might otherwise have overlooked because of “a cliched, general profile,” she says. “It said, ‘I like to cook, I’m funny and spontaneous, I enjoy outdoor activities.’” In person, though, he was sensitive and warm and had a “genuine smile,” Linda says. They went from tea to a sake bar on their first date, and in August, got married. (Planning to go out with anyone who asks? Try a smaller site where members have something in common: With Coffee Meets Bagel, all potential matches are friends of your Facebook friends.)

The Guy: Tommy, now her husband, grew up in a female-centric home, so he’s aware of and attuned to women’s feelings, says Linda. Plus, he shares Linda’s religious background, which is important to her.

Michelle Hartfiel
29, Queensland, Australia, eight-month relationship, used

The Strategy: Don’t rush meeting in person, then do hurry the date.

The Process: Michelle chose this location-based dating app—which lets you set up a date right then and there (say you’re at a café and a possible match is there too)—because it had the most local users. But she wanted to take things slow, so she waited two weeks before meeting someone in person. By instant messaging on, she was able to “weed out the oddballs and sleazes,” she says, and make sure the guy was interested in more than her photos.

Once she’d decided to go out with someone, she’d choose something quick, like a coffee, which she felt was just enough investment to determine if she wanted to see him again. After a few months, a guy named Shannon contacted her. They chatted online and texted (constantly!) for two weeks, and he seemed like “a complete gentleman.” When they finally met in person, they were already in sync. “It felt so right!” she says. It was so spot-on, in fact, that the two recently decided to move in together.

The Guy: Shannon, her soon-to-be live-in BF, is sweet and considerate, with values similar to hers. “We have an understanding of each other,” she says. “Maybe because we’re both Capricorns.”

35, New York City, yearlong relationship, used

The Strategy: Go on 30 dates, and make a friend do it too.

The Process: Lillian tracked the string of breakfasts, lunches, coffees, walks, dinners, and drinks on a spreadsheet, listing each guy’s name and where she’d met him to keep it all straight. She enlisted a friend to go on 30 dates too. It helped to have someone endure—and giggle about—the marathon with her. “I texted her a bunch,” she says. The two also had a debriefing dinner at date 15. “The dates ran the gamut,” Lillian says. “No-shows, rude ones, egotistical ones, supercute ones, not-so-supercute ones.”

One Sunday morning—date 30, coincidentally—Lillian met a guy for coffee. “As soon as he sat down, I knew I wanted to really get to know him,” she says. “Had I not gone on those other dates, I may not have been able to see the difference.” It became clear who was simply cute “and who I actually wanted to spend time with.” A year later, they’re still spending time together.

The Guy: Lillian’s boyfriend is, on paper, her opposite: more laid-back and artistic, and divorced, “but our personalities are similar in that we’re both warm and caring,” she says.


Homework for you:  Take time to come up with your own unique strategy to making your online dating experiences successful.



Again, I have personally met women who were highly successful in meeting men online. Three have married and are happier than morning lovebirds.

One nurse met a highly successful aerodynamics engineer, born in Vermont, who, after meeting her in Cleveland due to their online chemistry, proposed marriage.  He was transferred to Seattle and has bought her an incredible house on a lake with beautiful mountains in the background. Sigh.

Another, I worked with met locally and have now been married 7 years. Happy as can be.

Point is, these women would NEVER have met their now husbands, had it not been for online dating.

So, what are you waiting for …


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